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Updated (9/09): I am Puerto Rican, I prefer guys who are on the masculine side of the side of all races into the ranges of 40+. This is my preference and not automatically a requirement. Have you ever thought what one the hardest thing to achieve in life is? I can’t say it might be the same for every individual but for most of us is “love”. It is so easy to achieve all of the material things we want in life but the one thing that really matters the most isn’t. We can be successful in school, sports, or work; but when it comes to love it seems to be the hardest to achieve or keep going. I hear people say that nothing last forever and this can be a true statement, although many aren’t truly willing to make that determination as to what can and won’t last if they do not put forth the effort to make it work. As I go through life I hear and read on profiles that their “mature”, does everyone actually know what the word actually means. Being a legal age adult doesn’t really make you mature. Please keep in mind I am not judging anyone; and trust me I am no better than the person reading this. However, I have clear expectations of what I want in life in addition to what I will and won’t deal with from my own experiences. First, there is more to me than just the body which is simply a shell of the actual person that is inside of it. Oh, by the way yes I am naked in some of the pictures but that doesn’t make me a porn star or a slut. I happen to be very comfortable with my body enough to show it to the world and there’s nothing more than that. If you gotten through the first couple paragraphs that this person seems to be educated and well spoken. You’re correct! I am well educated and working and going to school full time which is no easy task. I guess over the years I have become a career student as I have finished two degrees and a certificate studies program and now have embark on going to graduate school this fall (2009). I am very confident and comfortable with myself as a person. I am stable overall and have very few concerns in that aspect in regards to myself; however the one thing that I seem to lack is that special someone to share my life with. I am typically asked why I present so much private information about myself; I don’t honestly think that I am. The average person would say being seen by the world naked should be considered private :o) However, the question that stands is how do you catch a fish without any bait? Maybe that person that is on the same level that I am on sees it, likes it, and decides to bite the hook. Unfortunately, life also has its gambles and you have to roll with the punches so to speak in order to achieve what you want in life. Nothing comes without a price if you hadn’t noticed. I guess the last several years I have been buying time but focusing on myself by better educating myself to a much higher level. I guess I can thank my ex-lover for this because instead of sitting and worrying about what I couldn’t obviously change; I focused on a positive aspect of my life instead of the negative. Second, today what is important to me is finding someone that is going to be supportive of my willing to continue my education. What I seek in a person is someone that is patient and understanding. I have a full plate with school and work but that doesn’t mean that they will be neglected. Being in a relationship should be about support and helping each other accomplish each other’s goals and dreams. I don’t expect much from a person in a lot of ways; however don’t sit at the table ready to eat if you can’t help bring food to the table so to speak. My first concern with being with anyone is that they have to be a good communicator. I think it’s always interesting when someone say that you have to be a “good kisser”. I am curious as to what that will achieve when there are problems, yes kissing and making up is nice. But if you can’t effectively use interpersonal communication skills then you’re not the right person for me. You can’t effectively go through life without being a good communication no matter what you do. I have adopted some important guidelines for improving my self-concept. 1.) We have to be willing to make a firm commitment to change. 2.) Gain knowledge as a basis for personal change; because commitment alone isn’t going to bring about constructive changes in who you are. 3.) Set goals that are realistic, fair, and 4.) Create a context that supports personal change meaning that we create an environment that supports my growth by choosing situations and people who help realize my goals. So now with all that said that should weed out the boys from the men. I guess I do have some strong expectations because I can honestly do badly on my own. But why should I have to do that when the purpose is to help each other. I have always been told that a body and a mind are two dangerous combinations. I would guess that is the reason I have a hard time meeting quality people, but I am optimistic that I will meet someone on the same level and my life will once again be complete. I am looking for someone that has a sense of humor, outgoing and sincere. I want that person to bring out the qualities which I sometimes have a hard time expressing. We have heard the saying that opposites attract and I do believe that because it creates a balance and I am looking for that balance in my life. I have seen people get offended but each and everyone one of us has a preference in the type of person we’re looking for. If not we will could settle with any individual that come into our lives. I am open to all races and in decent physical shape, I don’t expect them to have a body like mines nor do I tend to look for only big muscular guys, I like them slim as well. I don’t have a tendency to date men much older than myself but I am not closed mined about that either since there are some very sexy men in their 40’s. Now that I have put all about what I am looking for out there for everyone to read it all boils down to respect for yourself and me when responding. | |||||||||||||