Update Jan 2013
A good friend who really struggled in 2012 with a crumbling marriage shared some pearls of wisdom from her counsellor that men are divided into 2 camps: "narcissistic pricks" or "nice guys." Her problem, of course, was she gravitated to a narcissistic prick, then wondered why she was treated like shit in the relationship.
When we lose hope about finding love, that's exactly the same moment we lower our expectations and comprimise our principles to the point where one feels empty inside ... A narcissistic prick preys on vulnerability, and will use you for their temporary pleasure. A "nice guy" will want to discover what makes you tick, and what really pushes your buttons -- and their desire to be around you won't be measured in minutes, or hours.
So to all you beautiful buff handsome men ... you'll need to be a "nice guy" to win me over. Life is too short to spend time with someone who will only ever be into themselves : )
One last thing: if I IM or pay you a compliment in a message, I promise not to stalk you to the alter. A simple "thank you" goes a long way. Remember: smokin' hot and ignorant or filled with attitude is NOT a sexy combination.
We are here for such a short time. Be good to one another.
Now ... back to my old profile : ) Pics will be updated soon !!!
An acquaintance suggested that I look at my profiles on-line, and better project what it is that I want.
Hmm. What do I want? At times, I want to be the wide-eyed bottom in chaps, legs in staps, in a sling with 4 tops surrounding me, taking turns. There is a bit of fear in my eyes, but I'm loving what's going on ...
At times, I want want to find a man that demonstrates passion while kissing.
At times, I just want someone to rub my back, to tickle my feet or bite my ear.
At times I just want someone to say "that was an incredible dinner, let me clean up."
I think all of us have a basic yearning to be loved, and to love. The jaded think "I don't need anyone" but after you have slept alone for too many years deep down a lot of us just want someone to hold -- to make that emotional connection with someone, that many men don't want to even talk about.
... and sometimes, we just wanna be a sex pig, go tribal on our partner, and let all of our sexual energy loose.
So what do I want? Good sex. Long, loosen the bolts on the bed frame gyrating sex. Just when you think it can't possibly get any better, you're going at it again kinda sex. Obviously, that is the lust component.
I want a guy with a sense of family, duty, respect. Someone with a grain of ambition and a decent head screwed on his shoulders. You don't have to be a rocket scientist, just be willing to put in a decent day's work. I have no issues sharing, but I'm not looking for gold diggers either.
I don't do bars and clubs. Responsible drinker. Don't smoke, or do drugs. Well established and comfortably settled. Willing to date with the pants on, or off ; ).
Good food -- home cooking or fine dining
A fragrent red wine
A long walk
More of a dog guy, but love all animals
Learning something new
Touch ... I love to be touched
A dictionary to spell spontanaity ; P
Men in rollerblades (not sure why, but it is SUCH a turn on)
A partner with a sense of adventure
A good sense of humor
Uncleanliness, particularly about one's own body
Gossip ... I believe if you talk about someone behind their back it should only be about their good qualities ... let THAT get back to them
The "life owes me" attitude -- it is what you make of it
Bitchiness and negativity -- life is way too short to bitch and moan and complain about everyone and everything
Emotionally closed off men -- afraid to freely express emotion through the spoken word or touch
Lack of empthay towards others
Degradation -- as much as I love being fucked, I'm not your pussy boy / your man whore / bitch yadda yadda -- and would prefer not to be spit on
Hopefully you have a better sense of me, and what I'm all about.